We met in the beginning of July.
Have you ever heard the song "Accidentally in Love" by Counting Crows? Our love is like that. Completely unexpected, and at one of the most inconvenient times. But when the Lord calls you to something you must respond.
Lots of questions rise when relationships begin. Will this work out? Is she/he the one?
I think the answer can be found in a combination of things...
The first part is submitting to the Lord in all things. His will is what needs to be done in our lives. He is in control, and if He calls us to something we must follow. I submit this relationship into His hands, and He may do with it what He wants. I must be open to what he calls us to do.
The second part is something I believe we have more control of, and it's where a lot of people give up (certainly where I have given up in the past). In this part we must work. We must give our effort and our labor. This is the part that is both beautiful and difficult. It is where we love. Love has this tendency to be described in many different ways- some right and some way out there.
Mark Twain writes that love is "the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." Now, I am not saying that this is not included in a romantic love, but I think the "world" reduces love and its immensity into this "feeling." (I will wrote more in a different blog about the different kinds of love as defined by St. Paul and the Greeks). I contest that love is more than a feeling and sentiment.
Love is a sacrifice. Love ultimately has is fullest definition on the Cross, where our God became one of us gave up His life for us, so that we may spend eternity with Him. Wow. That is more than I can even fathom. Love is an effort and sacrifice, because the maker of love made it be to that way. The definition is like was coined by our Theology professor: "Love is to will the good of the beloved." This is a packed sentence, and I want you to hear it again: "Love is to will the good of the beloved."
It may seem like I went into a tangent (which I probably did), but the point is that love takes effort and sacrifice. It is willing what is good for the person being loved. This is how relationships make it; through sacrifice and effort. You gotta work it girl. I was talking to Cay about this last night. I approach this this with great humility, because I have never been married, and I know I will be in for the surprise of a lifetime when I am. However, I believe that most marriages fail today because after a point, the couple just gives up. The effort and sacrifice stops, and ultimately so does the love.
Sorry to get a little negative... so lets bring it to a positive light.
I am in a relationship now, with a woman that I love. I have never been happier. I will the good of you Ana Carmina Santayana.
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